the twenties
prologue-
somehow, some way, in some crazy time warp it has become the last year in my twenties. with that said i wanted to write it all down. i need a moment to reflect on what the hell happened over the past decade and i don’t want to forget a moment. i mean sure there is a lot of heavy stuff, but i know without the bad i would have never had any of the good. i remember uploading photo albums to my facebook. i remember falling in love for the very first time and the heartbreak at the end. i turned 21 in sydney australia and danced my ass off to ‘party in the usa’ while forcing everyone else off the stage as i was the lone american in the bar, or so i assumed. i worked for nordstrom selling kids shoes, and i killed it. i moved to new york city with $150 and slept on a sofa for 3 months until i could get my own place. i was a holiday employee and worked at lady gaga’s workshop at barneys on madison ave. i joined the ice theatre of new york, and got to continue skating. i dated a bunch of different types of guys while i was in new york. i moved to japan and lived in tokyo with a guy i met just 4 weeks prior. i told some people it was for work and a job, and the others that i was following my heart. after a year in japan, i moved to los angeles. i got a puppy and i was in love with him, his name was spike. los angeles proved to be the ultimate relationship poison. i started over yet again, found a new job and was for once completely on my own. i dealt with heartbreak, depression, and a lot of pain in every single wrong way. i eventually found myself again and i’m sorry for being unkind to anyone in that process. i’m no different than any other twenty year old something but i wanted to share it and maybe someone out there can connect with a story on some level and find some peace in knowing that you aren’t the only one. i found myself in some crazy dark corners of my mind in a lot of my twenties. some of that was my own doing and my own anxiety and worry and fear. but a lot of things happened that were also out of my control. i always follow my heart and my music every step of the way. i’ve made some really stupid choices and i’ve taken some crazy awesome risks. i said yes a lot more than i said no, and you should do that. you should also ask for help, it’s not a weakness. you should say i love you and look at people who matter in their eyes. crying is insanely helpful and that is the truth. but give it a limit, learn to control that, and work on the good stuff. no matter who or what you love, they should be a partner. partnership is not always a perfect balance, and that is the beauty in staying the course. instagram isn’t real. adele is and always will be the more talented and more grammy achieved version of me. spend more time with your friends and family and less time hoping to get a text about a party in the hills with the worst humans on the planet. go on a lot of dates and find someone who lets you be you, and feel like you can do anything in the world. love yourself a whole fucking bunch. if you don’t have a family, make one. stop waiting for approval because it won’t happen. okay, you still want it don’t you? approved. i love you, i love you, and please love you back. i always imagined how my twenties were going to be, and let me promise you they couldn’t have been more different.
love,
Kurt